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“ Ibn Uthaymeen Rahimahullah: “Do not Marry 7 types of Women…”

1. Al-Annaanah: The woman who whines, moans and complains and ‘ties a band around her head’ all the time (i.e. complains of a headache or some illness but in reality she is not sick, rather she is faking).

2. Al-Mannaanah: The woman who bestows favours, gifts, etc. upon her husband then (at that time or the future) says; “I did such and such for you or on your behalf or because of you.

3. Al-Hannaanah: The women who yearns or craves for her former husband or children of the former husband.

4. Kay’atul-Qafaa: The women who has a brand mark on the nape of her neck (i.e. has a bad reputation or doubts about her).

5. Al-Haddaaqah: The women who cast her eyes at things (i.e. always looking at something to purchase, then desires it and requires her husband to buy it (No Matter What).

6. Al-Barraaqah: The women who spends much of her day enhancing her face and beautifying it to such an extent that it will seem like it was manufactured.

7. Al-Shaddaaqah: The woman who talks excessively..

——————— Reference: Taken from the Book: ‘A Concise Manual of Marriage’ by Shaykh Ibn Uthaymeen  ”

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On the authority of Abu Hurayrah, may Allaah be pleased with him, said: The Messenger of Allaah, may peace and blessings be upon him, said:

“The believer is the mirror of the believer.”

[Abu Daawud, no. 4918, with a good chain]

Commentary:

Shaykh Saalih Al-Fawzaan, may Allaah preserve him, explains this hadeeth by saying:

A mirror is that which you see yourself when you stand in front of it whether the picture is presentable or needs fixing and modification. When a person wishes to leave from his home, he stands in front of the mirror because there may be something that he needs to correct on himself or remove from his clothing or the like. For a person to have a pleasant appearance in front of the people is a good thing, however there is the figurative meaning of mirror that shows you your deficiencies and that is your Muslim brother/sister.

The believer is the mirror of his fellow brother. Your brother knows the mistakes and shortcomings that you may have and therefore informs you of them so accept what he tells you. This is an encouragement to accept what your brother presents to you which entails the beautification of your inward and outward appearance. Also he sees things in you that you can’t see yourself. A person may think he is complete and is mistake-free whereas his sincere and genuine Muslim brother sees that he has mistakes and shortcomings thus he instructs him to rectify them. So do not restrict yourself solely to your own assumptions and considerations but consult your brother and listen to the advice he has to give.

In this hadeeth are two important matters:

1. A person should accept the advice of his sincere brother from that which he sees in him from defects and correct them.
2. It is compulsory upon the Muslim to advise his brother/sister and not remain silent about what he sees in him from defects and the like or the opposite; praising him and being phony with him by relaying to him that which isn’t true (about himself). This is deceit and treachery. “The believer is the mirror to the believer,” he sees in him his own picture and what needs perfecting and reformation.

[Source: ‘Tasheelul Ilmaam bi fiqhil Ahaadeeth min Buloogh Al-Maraam’ by Sheikh Saalih al-Fouzaan, Translated by Abu Fouzaan Qaasim]

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Ibnu Taimiyyah rahimahullah berkata :

وَكَثِيرًا مَا يَقْرِنُ النَّاسُ بَيْنَ الرِّيَاءِ وَالْعُجْبِ فَالرِّيَاءُ مِنْ بَابِ الْإِشْرَاكِ بِالْخَلْقِ وَالْعُجْبُ مِنْ بَابِ الْإِشْرَاكِ بِالنَّفْسِ وَهَذَا حَالُ الْمُسْتَكْبِرِ فَالْمُرَائِي لَا يُحَقِّقُ قَوْلَهُ : { إيَّاكَ نَعْبُدُ } وَالْمُعْجَبُ لَا يُحَقِّقُ قَوْلَهُ : { وَإِيَّاكَ نَسْتَعِينُ } فَمَنْ حَقَّقَ قَوْلَهُ : { إيَّاكَ نَعْبُدُ } خَرَجَ عَنْ الرِّيَاءِ وَمَنْ حَقَّقَ قَوْلَهُ { وَإِيَّاكَ نَسْتَعِينُ } خَرَجَ عَنْ الْإِعْجَابِ وَفِي الْحَدِيثِ الْمَعْرُوفِ : { ثَلَاثٌ مُهْلِكَاتٌ : شُحٌّ مُطَاعٌ وَهَوًى مُتَّبَعٌ وَإِعْجَابُ الْمَرْءِ بِنَفْسِهِ }

“Dan sering orang-orang menggandengkan antara riyaa’ dan ujub.

Riyaa termasuk bentuk kesyirikan dengan orang lain (yaitu mempertujukan ibadah kepada orang lain).

Adapun ujub termasuk bentuk syirik kepada diri sendiri (yaitu merasa dirinyalah atau kehebatannyalah yang membuat ia bisa berkarya). Ini merupkan kondisi orang yang sombong.

Orang yang riyaa’ tidak merealisasikan firman Allah إيَّاكَ نَعْبُدُ

“Hanya kepadaMulah kami beribadah”,

Dan orang yang ujub tidaklah merealisasikan firman Allah وَإِيَّاكَ نَسْتَعِينُ

“Dan hanya kepadaMulah kami memohon pertolongan”.

Barangsiapa yang merealisasikan firman Allah إيَّاكَ نَعْبُدُ maka ia akan keluar lepas dari riyaa’

Dan barangsiapa yang merealisasikan firman Allah وَإِيَّاكَ نَسْتَعِينُ maka ia akan keluar terlepas dari ujub.”

(Majmuu’ Al-Fataawaa 10/277).

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[Opening]

That is only out of fear it should be attained,
By any expect the one deserving, and your lord is most knowledge of the creation.

And even if it should be concealed from us with every disliked thing,
And surrounded by that which troubles the soul.

[Entering Jannah]

By Allah what delights are contained inside,
And all manners of pleasure for the soul to enjoy.

And from Allah is the sweetness of life in its pavilions,
Its gardens and in the meadow which will make one smile.

[Seeing Allaah]

And to Allah belongs its vallley where there is promise of increase,
For those who love Allah; if only I could be of them.

In that valley, the lover wanders,
And he sees the wandering to be a great attainment.

And from Allah is the joy of the lovers when,
He addresses them from above and greets them with salam.

And by Allah, when they see Allah directly,
Neither shall darkness cover their sight nor shall they tire.

Say O what a glance which gives a brightness to the face,
Can the enthralled lover ever forget after that?

[Al-Hoor Al-‘Ayn]

And by Allah, how many fair (maidens), if only were to smile,
She would radiate light brighter then the break of dawn.

So how great is the enjoyment of the eyes when she approaches,
And how great is the enjoyment of the ears when she speaks.

And O what a timidness like a soft branch when she leans near,
And O what bashfulness when she smiles.

So if your heart is afflicted with love for her,
There is no cure except to consummate with her.

Particularly in her kiss when she embraces you,
As her wrist rest against your neck.

When she unveils to him the beauty of her face,
He will take pleasure in that before they have even consummated.

The eye delights at seeing her.
(Also) there are all manners of fruit which never go out of season.

[The Fruits Of Jannah]

Bunches of grapes and apples of the garden,
And pomegranates, all manner of fruits enthralling the heart.

And roses adorn its fields,
And wine is passed around to taste.

All manners of beauty are gathered together,
O what a wondrous gathering it is.

It has mant types of beauty which altogether,
Make it impossible to forget.

[Remembering Allaah]

Remember Ar-Rahman who is watching always,
So pronounce Tasbih without stuttering,

So that whenever you face the army of despair,
It shall turn back on its heals vanquished.

[Propose To Your Hoor]

So O you who would propose to the beautiful maidens,
If you desire, then now is the time when dowry must be prepared.

So once the vigor of youth passes from him,
He knows for sure that he shall not reach decrepit old age.

Hate all those women who are treacherous to her love,
Then you will attain her rather then them, and thus attain happiness.

Avoid all those besides her for indeed it is,
For the likes of you alone that she waits in paradise.

[How To Attain Paradise]

And fast the day nearest to you, perhaps tomorrow,
You will enjoy the ‘Eed of Fitr while the people are fasting.

And go forward, be not satisfied with a base life,
No one attains pleasure without effort.

[A Believer Is A Stranger In This Life]

And if the whole world should be restricted for you,
And you should have not even a known place to stay.

Then come to Gardens of Eternity,
For they are our first dwelling places and they contain many pavilions.

We are prisoners in the hands of enemies; do you think,
We shall return to our lands and have peace?

They claim that when the stranger goes out,
And his lands are far way, he becomes infatuated (with it).

What strangeness is greater then ours,
For which the enemies have taken every measure against us.

Come to the marketplace where the lovers meet,
That is the place that is know for them.

Whatever you like, take without payment,
For the traders have made all advance payments and given up their goods.

[A Honorable Meeting With Allaah]

And come to the day of increase in which,
The Lord of the Throne shall visit, that is a holiday!

Come to a valley that is vast,
Its dirt is greater then the fragrance of musk.

Pulpits of light you will find there and silver,
And of pure gold which does not break.

Mounds of musk set up as sitting places
For those who are beneath the owners of the pulpits.

So while they are busy in their joys,
And their sustenance comes to them,

Suddenly there is a piercing bright light,
Filling the far corners of the gardens.

The Lord of the Heavens manifest Himself for them openly,
He loves from above his Throne and then He speaks.

”Peace be upon you” as all of them hear,
With their ears his greetings of peace when he greets them.

He says ”Ask me whatever you wish for all you,
Wish is with me andIi am Most Merciful.”

They all say ”We ask You (Your) Pleasure,
For You are the One who owns all that is beautiful and shows mercy.”

He grants this to them and they bear witness,
That Allah is the Most Generous.

[Where Do You Stand?]

So O you who would sell this for a measly price hastily given,
It is as if you do not know; indeed, you shall know!

So if you do not know, then that is a calamity,
And if you know, then the calamity is greater!

[The Biography of Iman Ibn Al-Qayyim Pp. 295-300, quoting from Hadi al-Arwah, p. 20]

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